Thursday, January 31, 2008

An interview with Dr. Darryl Part 5

HJDS - What's on your mind these days?

DrD - Well, I drove to Florida the last two days. I like to drive and think and listen to the radio and meet people on the road. I always get an education about human nature. The driving time allows me alone time.Sadly this trip --- well, my intuition tells me that the days with Stimpy are getting shorter. The ole man is getting harder to get up and walk. He grows skinnier it seems to me each day. Being away from him bothers me since I believe we are now in the downward spiral. Yet, even so he continues to teach me about life and death and the circle that we all complete.

This evening in Florida the weather looks bad and is turning worse. we have tornado warnings out and everyone seems to be tense.

Otherwise what's on my mind?

Well, I fear for the future of our country. I simply don't see how anyone could believe either of the two Democrat candidates have enough experience to even run my business let alone the country. I find John McCain to be any angry old Republican establishment kind of guy and Romney can't get any traction. And Ron Paul is the equivalent of a caricature of George McGovern warpped in a Republican blanket. What are we to do with such a sad selection of leaders?

Sometimes I feel depressed thinking how hard we have worked to be able to retire and enjoy our remaining years only to see my government suck my retirement investments away in taxes and bloated budgets to run the government!

And that Mr. Stimpson is what I think about these days ;-)

Dr. Darryl

L. Darryl Armstrong

http://www.armstrongandassociates.org/

Tuesday, January 29, 2008

Stimpy Update and My First You Tube Type Video

On The Back of Lake Barkley --- The storms have moved through here this evening. They even disrupted Yoga class in Princeton when the brick facade fell off the building next door to the Yoga studio. Everyone is fine but the storms persist. We are keeping a close watch. The temps here today approached 60 and they are suppose to drop to the 20s this evening. Ideal weather for tornadoes and thunderstorms!

I again want to thank all of you who continue to ask about Stimpy and how he's doing. Here is the latest. He continues his daily walks with us although today his first walk was very short. He strains to go potty but with the stool softeners he is dong pretty good. He is eating well especially now that I am sharing some deer sausage with him daily --- don't tell the other two fellas here --- they don't get any.

So I tried out my new Casio camera this evening and got some video --- it has my "baby" voice for my buddy Stimpy --- I can't help it I am just like that with my old man. As you can see he is being well cared for ;-) and yawning and stretching and enjoying his couch!

Enjoy ---

Dr. Darryl

L. Darryl Armstrong

http://www.armstrongandassociates.org/

Friday, January 25, 2008

The Old Man and the Dog

I don't know Catherine Moore but I love her as I do my friend Stephanie and Momma Knipe both who sent me this story.
If ever a story captures the belief I have about "angels" and my own dog Stimpy this story does just that. Maybe there are those of you out there that have not yet understood that Stimpy is not "just a dog" to me. This story might help you understand why I feel that way.
Enjoy, Dr. D


The Old Man and the Dog
by Catherine Moore


"Watch out! You nearly broad sided that car!" My father yelled at me. "Can't you do anything right?"

Those words hurt worse than blows. I turned my head toward the elderly man in the seat beside me, daring me to challenge him. A lump rose in my throat as I averted my eyes. I wasn't prepared for another battle.

"I saw the car, Dad. Please don't yell at me when I'm driving." My voice was measured and steady, sounding far calmer than I really felt.Dad glared at me, then turned away and settled back.

At home I left Dad in front of the television and went outside to collect my thoughts. Dark, heavy clouds hung in the air with a promise of rain. The rumble of distant thunder seemed to echo my inner turmoil.

What could I do about him?

Dad had been a lumberjack in Washington and Oregon He had enjoyed being outdoors and had reveled in pitting his strength against the forces of nature. He had entered grueling lumberjack competitions, and had placed often. The shelves in his house were filled with trophies that attested to his prowess.

The years marched on relentlessly. The first time he couldn't lift a heavy log, he joked about it; but later that same day I saw him outside alone, straining to lift it. He became irritable whenever anyone teased him about his advancing age, or when he couldn't do something he had done as a younger man.

Four days after his sixty-seventh birthday, he had a heart attack. An ambulance sped him to the hospital while a paramedic administered CPR to keep blood and oxygen flowing. At the hospital, Dad was rushed into an operating room. He was lucky; he survived. But something inside Dad died.

His zest for life was gone.

He obstinately refused to follow doctor's orders. Suggestions and offers of help were turned aside with sarcasm and insults. The number of visitors thinned, then finally stopped altogether. Dad was left alone.

My husband, Dick , and I asked Dad to come live with us on our small farm. We hoped the fresh air and rustic atmosphere would help him adjust. Within a week after he moved in, I regretted the invitation. It seemed nothing was satisfactory. He criticized everything I did. I became frustrated and moody.

Soon I was taking my pent-up anger out on Dick. We began to bicker and argue. Alarmed, Dick sought out our pastor and explained the situation. The clergyman set up weekly counseling appointments for us. At the close of each session he prayed, asking God to soothe Dad's troubled mind.

But the months wore on and God was silent. Something had to be done and it was up to me to do it. The next day I sat down with the phone book and methodically called each of the mental health clinics listed in the Yellow Pages. I explained my problem to each of the sympathetic voices that answered. In vain.

Just when I was giving up hope, one of the voices suddenly exclaimed, "I just read something that might help you! Let me go get the article." I listened as she read. The article described a remarkable study done at a nursing home. All of the patients were under treatment for chronic depression. Yet their attitudes had improved dramatically when they were given responsibility for a dog.

I drove to the animal shelter that afternoon. After I filled out a questionnaire, a uniformed officer led me to the kennels. The odor of disinfectant stung my nostrils as I moved down the row of pens. Each contained five to seven dogs. Long-haired dogs, curly-haired dogs, black dogs, spotted dogs all jumped up, trying to reach me. I studied each one but rejected one after the other for various reasons too big, too small, too much hair.

As I neared the last pen a dog in the shadows of the far corner struggled to his feet, walked to the front of the run and sat down. It was a pointer, one of the dog world's aristocrats. But this was a caricature of the breed. Years had etched his face a n d muzzle with shades of gray. His hipbones jutted out in lopsided triangles. But it was his eyes that caught and held my attention. Calm and clear, they beheld me unwaveringly.

I pointed to the dog. "Can you tell me about him?" The officer looked, then shook his head in puzzlement."He's a funny one. Appeared out of nowhere and sat in front of the gate. We brought him in, figuring someone would be right down to claim him. That was two weeks ago and we've heard nothing. His time is up tomorrow." He gestured helplessly.

As the words sank in I turned to the man in horror. "You mean you're going to kill him?""Ma'am," he said gently, "that's our policy. We don't have room for every unclaimed dog." I looked at the pointer again. The calm brown eyes awaited my decision. "I'll take him," I said.I drove home with the dog on the front seat beside me.

When I reached the house I honked the horn twice. I was helping my prize out of the car when D ad shuffled onto the front porch.

"Ta-da! Look what I got for you, Dad!" I said excitedly.

Dad looked, then wrinkled his face in disgust.

"If I had wanted a dog I would have gotten one. And I would have picked out a better specimen than that bag of bones. Keep it! I don't want it!"

Dad waved his arm scornfully and turned back toward the house. Anger rose inside me. It squeezed together my throat muscles and pounded into my temples."You'd better get used to him, Dad. He's staying!" Dad ignored me. "Did you hear me, Dad?" I screamed.

At those words Dad whirled angrily, his hands clenched at his sides, his eyes narrowed and blazing with hate. We stood glaring at each other like duelists, when suddenly the pointer pulled free from my grasp. He wobbled toward my dad and sat down in front of him. Then slowly, carefully, he raised his paw.

Dad's lower jaw trembled as he stared at the uplifted paw. Confusion replaced the anger in his eyes. The pointer waited patiently. Then Dad was on his knees hugging the animal.

It was the beginning of a warm and intimate friendship. Dad named the pointer Cheyenne .

Together he and Cheyenne explored the community. They spent long hours walking down dusty lanes. They spent reflective moments on the banks of streams, angling for tasty trout. They even started to attend Sunday services together, Dad sitting in a pew and Cheyenne lying quietly at his feet.

Dad and Cheyenne were inseparable throughout the next three years.

Dad's bitterness faded, and he and Cheyenne made many friends.

Then late one night I was startled to feel Cheyenne 's cold nose burrowing through our bed covers. He had never before come into our bedroom at night. I woke Dick, put on my robe and ran into my father's room. Dad lay in his bed, his face serene. But his spirit had left quietly sometime during the night.

Two days later my shock and grief deepened when I discovered Cheyenne lying dead be side Dad's bed.

I wrapped his still form in the rag rug he had slept on. As Dick and I buried him near a favorite fishing hole, I silently thanked the dog for the help he had given me in restoring Dad's peace of mind.

The morning of Dad's funeral dawned overcast and dreary. This day looks like the way I feel, I thought, as I walked down the aisle to the pews reserved for family. I was surprised to see the many friends Dad and Cheyenne had made filling the church.

The pastor began his eulogy. It was a tribute to both Dad and the dog who had changed his life.

And then the pastor turned to Hebrews 13:2. "Be not forgetful to entertain strangers."

"I've often thanked God for sending that angel," he said.

For me, the past dropped into place, completing a puzzle that I had not seen before: the sympathetic voice that had just read the right article... Cheyenne 's unexpected appearance at the animal shelter. . .his calm acceptance and complete devotion to my father. . .and the proximity of their deaths. And suddenly I understood. I knew that God had answered my prayers after all.

Dr. Darryl
L. Darryl Armstrong
http://www.armstrongandassociates.org/

Wednesday, January 23, 2008

When I am sad

Max and Stimpy bonded early on as you can see. And whenever I feel sad I think of how much Max goes out of his way to show his affection toward his friend by giving multitudes of kisses. Tonight Max has a sore foot yet he stilled managed to limp over to his best friend and share his affection. Maybe some times when we are sad we need to remember to show our affection and get out of ourselves and give to others.

Dr. Darryl
L. Darryl Armstrong
http://www.armstrongandassociates.org/

Tuesday, January 22, 2008

Friends Part Deux


You're...My Friend,
my companion,
through good times and bad my friend,
my buddy,
through happy and sad,
beside me you stand,
beside me you walk,
you're there to listen,
you're there to talk,
with happiness,
with smiles,
with pain and tears,
I know you'll be there,
throughout the years!
Until next time.
Dr. Darryl
L. Darryl Armstrong

Monday, January 21, 2008

Friends

"Friends come in all sizes."

Sunday, January 20, 2008

Reflections



"I see what others can't because they get confused by the color." (Darryl Armstrong explaining his inability to see color to a friend)

Wednesday, January 16, 2008

An interview with Dr. Darryl Part 4

HJDS – What do you think about these days?

DrD – I spend a lot of times these days realizing that what my parents and elders told me about the world is probably true --- that is that each generation looks back on the previous and realizes they were a lot smarter and wiser than we gave them credit. I have come to realize that politicians rank lower in my book than even used car salesmen and that's pretty low! That if we are to ever regain the principles upon which this country was founded that we will have to go through another American Revolution. And all this saddens me because I don't believe it will happen in my life time but that it will have to happen.

HJDS - Do you think democracy and our Republic will survive?

DrD - Honestly at times I doubt it. I see creeping socialism and I feel very bad for all of us who have worked hard to establish our businesses and lives only to see them destroyed for a "greater good." I believe that the strength in America lies in the individual.

HJDS - Are you not a benevolent and charitable person?

DrD - I would say that I am quite benevolent and charitable, as most Americans are, we help our fellow man not because we are told to by government but because we choose to. We help those that will help themselves. We teach people to fish not give them the fish. I carry that over in my business. I want my clients to be self-sufficient when we have completed our consultations not dependent on me. That is what we must be doing to help our fellow man. We must teach them to become self-sufficient, to rebuild their self-respect and to seek out their ambitions and passions and go for them with our full support and assistance.

HJDS - I know that at one time in your life you lost a child and almost lost your wife. What impact did that have on you?

DrD - Well, it had significant impact on me and the way I look at life.

It was a strange and difficult time in our lives.

I don't believe in coincidences. The day my wife was rushed to the hospital was the same day that a former lover of mine (probably the first person I ever truly loved and the relationship didn't develop) left the hospital with her first child.

It was terribly ironic and emotionally upsetting for my wife and I to witness all this. Yet, we survived.

I found that men don't discuss such issues and that women rally around their women friends during these times.

I came to view the sacredness of life differently and I realized that life is very precious and too short. I also could have lost my wife because of this emergency surgery. I was fortunate and blessed.

By the way, I had already named my daughter Sirah Illyana and was reading her stories and playing her music. She lives in my heart to this day and I talk to her now and then just as I talk to my dogs about my life and my feelings.

HJDS - I understand that you have "adopted" daughters?

DrD - You betcha. Three. Danielle, Sandra and Penelope and we love and care for each of them. I will share their stories with you later.

To be continued ...

Until next time.

Dr. Darryl

L. Darryl Armstrong

http://www.armstrongandassociates.org/

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

An interview with Dr. Darryl Part 3

HJDS – Who are some of the people in your life that have made significant impacts on you and your philosophy?

DrD – Women? My first grade teacher Mrs. Crenshaw, my third grade teachers Mrs. Jones and my fourth grade teacher Mrs. Cunningham. I was very blessed that each of them inspired me to be a life-long learner. In college Mrs. Bradley contributed a great deal to that inspiration as well. Ms. Bowling, Ms Driskill, Ms Horne, Ms Bourne and Ms Eaton-Miller also greatly contributed to my understanding of life, love and self.

Men? Bill Brown, my high school principal; Gid Shelby Pool, the publisher and editor of the newspaper where I worked through high school; Joe Tom Erwin, my mentor and employer in college; Bert Ballard, my long-time best friend; Bob Maxwell, a dear friend and colleague; and Jim Knipe, my adopted father at Tybee Island and finally I would say President Ronald Reagan, who returned my dignity and made me feel a part of America once again.

Perhaps in some way each of these folks helped me see something a little different and that reflects even today in my writing and photography. Speaking of which the following photo is one of those that has haunted me every since I took it June 13, 2005. I think it is the light and shadows, remember I believe that we all have a light and dark side and this photo depicts it the best of any I have ever taken. This was in Yosemite somewhere in the redwoods.



To be continued...

Until next time.
Dr. Darryl
L. Darryl Armstrong
http://www.armstrongandassociates.org/

Monday, January 14, 2008

An interview with Dr. Darryl – Part 2

HJDS – You have had quite an interesting career and a successful business. What do you attribute that to?

DrD – Hard work and clean living. Seriously, the hard work is for sure. I believe that you give as much as possible to anything that you are doing and that you should always do it well. I have never been much a clean “liver” though. I have smoked, drank, and every other vice you can imagine except drugs. I did smoke pot twice and I did inhale. And yes, the Feds know all about it. I always disclosed on my security clearances. More importantly though, I attribute the “success” if you want to call it that to my staffs, associates and friends. They all teamed with me or inspired me to be the best I could be. And I would attribute the "success" of our firm to my wife, Jim Knipe and Tommy Miller. The last two especially inspired and believed in me when I didn't believe sometimes in myself.

HJDS – Okay, enough about work. Let’s talk about life. Do you have any regrets?

DrD – Yes.

HJDS – And they would be...

DrD – Well, suffice it to say that if I could live my life over from day one I would be kinder to people and I would try my best to be a better person.

HJDS – Do you feel you have not been a good person?

DrD – I know I have not been a good person. That is something that I will have to come to grips with when I meet my Maker. I try like all people to be better and live better but like so many folks I fall short. I suppose that is what our lives are all about though. It is simply a process of living life.

HJDS – That sounds pretty dark.

DrD – Well, it is. There are always two cycles in every day --- the light and the dark. All people have dark sides even the greatest among us. Some of us simply acknowledge it and try to bring some light to it when we can.

HJDS – What’s happiness for you?

DrDThat has changed a lot over the years. These days happiness is having one more day with Stimpy, walking with all three boys and my wife in the mornings and evenings, grilling and cooking dinner for friends, enjoying a good Bourbon or Scotch, taking some really awesome photographs, completing a project and knowing you really did a bang up job, and being able to get up each day with not too much pain --- physical or mental.

HJDS – So describe beauty for me...

DrD – The smile of my dogs when I enter the room --- it’s hard to describe. I also see beauty in women --- all women --- I have always been amazed at how if you look closely enough you can find something beautiful about any woman. I find beauty in places as well --- I love the ocean and the redwoods of California for example. But then beauty can be right in my front yard as well.

HJDS – You mentioned photography --- do you still do quite a bit of photography?

DrD – Well, as you know I used to make part of my living out of doing photography. These days I do some for my clients but I do a lot more for myself. I love digital photography I just wish I had had access to such equipment when I was growing up. I love to capture the beauty of what I see differently than others and then see their reaction to my interpretations of light, color and texture.

HJDSAren’t you profoundly color-blind?

DrD – Yes. Long story but I see colors differently than most people they are many thousands shades of light and darks and grays. This is one of my favorite photographs here because of the many shades of color...

To be continued...


Until next time.
Dr. Darryl
L. Darryl Armstrong
http://www.armstrongandassociates.org/

Sunday, January 13, 2008

An interview with Dr. Darryl

H.J.D. Stempson recently interviewed Dr. L. Darryl Armstrong. This was not an easy task. Darryl Armstrong frequently works with and counsels his clients on dealing with the media, however, he rarely gives interviews. Stempson is one of Darryl’s closet friends and a talented writer. What follows over the next few days is Stempson’s recounting of this event.

HJDS – I understand Darryl you don’t give many interviews. I appreciate your willingness to do so with me. So, let’s get right to it. You have a reputation of being a pretty intense person when it comes to your work. What about your personal life?

DrD – You are most welcome. Well, I would say that over the years I have mellowed greatly. There was a time when I came to believe that having a personal life was difficult to do as focused as I was on my work especially during the 70s and 80s. However, during my time at Oak Ridge National Lab and certainly since I started my own firm I have been much more open to developing more of a personal life.

HJDS – Do you have any hobbies?

DrD – Does working count? Seriously, I really enjoy working and I guess I always am in some form or fashion. My mind jumps from work to pleasure pretty quickly. I am always looking for new ideas to pursue. I guess my “hobbies’ would be walking my dogs, reading, and enjoying a good Scotch or Bourbon. I can no longer smoke a good cigar or my pipe due to health problems and that was always a “hobby” I guess. I enjoy deer hunting with my buddies --- those that haven’t died on me --- and I enjoy cooking, grilling and entertaining. A good debate about politics or world affairs is kind of fun too.

HJDS – How many dogs do you have?

DrD – Three right now. My older dog Stimpy, well we found he had cancer when we were at the island this year. I am ensuring I spend as much time with him as I can and he has always gotten special treatment anyway. He’s a husky mix. Max is the 65-pound puppy and is an Alaskan malamute and Little Bit is a 20-pound Bischon.

HJDS – I understand Stimpy is really special to you. He saved your life?

DrD – Yes, he did. I have always grappled with and fought with depression. In the 70s and 80s I had severe bouts especially due to a personal relationship that went south. Then in the 1990s after I started the firm I had a severe round and was suicidal. Stimpy literally kept me from eating a bullet. I will forever be grateful to him. I suspect no other dog will ever be as special to me.

To be continued ...

Until next time.
Dr. Darryl
L. Darryl Armstrong
http://www.armstrongandassociates.org/

Monday, January 7, 2008

Logan and an Update on Stimpy

LAKE BARKLEY ON THE BACK OF EDDY CREEK BAY --- It is like spring time here today. The weather is overcast, the temp 61-degrees more like spring than winter. I have been remiss in keeping everyone posted on what is going on because I have been fighting a pretty severe depression since the news about Stimpy was given to us.

However, Stimpy is holding his own. Still walking with us daily and even seemingly more interested in walking than ever especially on cold days. Little Bit and Max are as loving as ever. The pack remains intact for now.

Today, I got an email from my friend and associate Chuck Howell, an old TVA buddy, that had a You Tube attachment. This particular video is worth watching and I thank Chuck for sending it along. It helped my spirits and helped my outlook on the day. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCdZwitrNoY

Until next time.
Dr. Darryl
L. Darryl Armstrong
http://www.armstrongandassociates.org/